Just say no!

A couple of years ago when I still had quite a few bare spots in my back yard I accepted a couple of passalong plants from a neighbour. I had seen them in his yard, and they were magnificent. The leaves were lovely and silver-backed and HUGE, and made a lovely sound brushing against each other in the wind. I was quite taken with them, and planted two out in the corner of my garden next to the heleconias. That side and corner really started to fill in. Did I mention they were HUGE? What was I thinking? I have been slowly cutting some of them back and noticed that they were spreading rather rapidly. Suddenly I wasn't so in love anymore..... I started working on one clump about a month ago, and it ended badly.... with me sitting in tears sobbing about how I was just not a gardener, nothing grew right in my garden, how stupid could I have been to plant these....everything was just a mess..... I had cut the 12ft leaves down, and dragged...